Point me to one woman who hasnt been on a self styled diet ever in her life and i will build a temple in her honour and worship the ground she walks on everyday..Fact is, even the best among us, even the waif like nymphettes, want to be in more adherence to the perfect model of beauty..As someone blessed with more than my share of excess flab and several tens of kilos of excess weight, I just found it hilarious when a friend who is barely (literally) half my weight complained to me about the horrendous extent of her abdomen!!..The poor thing was traumatized and very obviously in pain...She was writhing in mental agony and obsessing over what more could be done to lose the 5 kilos of lipid tissue on her abdomen..tsk tsk i say..

Why do women need to diet all the time???Is it just to conform to an ideal of beauty?Or is it because women, by sheer force of nature, are inherently competitive and need to outplay fellow members of their species in some weird neanderthal game of more fertile mate material? Lets face it..us girls like to compete..we have to be the best moms, bake the best brownies, fry the puffiest puris and keep the cleanest houses. Could this obsession over the extra inch of flab be part of this perennial quest for perfection?

Or is it because we are just so insecure? As someone with an utterly un-judgemental partner for a spouse, I have often been repulsed by men folk who peer over their own beer bellies to sneer at their wives post pregnancy flab. Women get easily ticked off by men who judge; some of them plain want to avoid such a situation at all and go to great lengths to maintain the image of perfection for their husband and society at large. Even a near blind 90-year old aunt commenting on the ampleness of her hips or puffy cheeks is enough for the woman to have a near heart attack..diets will ensue, starvation, treadmill, the works..

Women need to own their spirits..no grandmother, husband, aunt, boss or weighing scale should take that away from her.. She should learn to love herself..all of it..no matter what her size, big or small..Only with an empowered spirit will she be an empowered individual. Without true empowerment there really is no point in screaming throats hoarse about equality and feminism. A true feminist believes in herself and her abilities to define her future. She owns her spirit and no one can take her aura from her.